why am i so hurt?

Hey am i normal? i am 22 and talked to my mom today and she told me that her and my dad are gonna get different apartments. She said that they are headed different ways in life so they are not mad or anything about eachother just cant live together. Why am i so hurt at 22 but i know i am gonna bottle it. my family is a mess my dad abused me when i was younger and denied it my mom believed him and now this 4 years later.

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i've gone through some of the same things in my life. its hard to get over and i know what u are going through. i encourage to go to church and think about christianity. or even just read a bible. at my lowest point in my life it was the thing that saved me.

that is a question you really should ponder you shouldn't care

you are more than entitled to feel hurt. Speaking from experience, I would say that you really need to go and see a therapist to get your problems sorted out- there's a lot of unresolved issues in your family, so try to talk them out with a professional. Good Luck hon, I really hope it all works out for you! :)

I have had the same thing happen to me. My parents brutally hated each other and my dad abused me. This just means that they are having a problem. This is not your fault. Yes you are normal. Calm down and try to get to the bottom of the problem.

You are going to have to make the best out of your life on your own. Your first mistake was denying it. You second is expecting your mom and and to make it right for you. They are obviously wrapped up in them self right now.

Make your goals. Work on the easiest ones first and do what you want to do in life. You are 22 years old and you should be well on your way to doing just that.

Good luck to you!

It may be because this is yet another confirmation that your family is dysfunctional and they're making it that way.

I would be looking at it as a blessing that your mom is getting away from this man who obviously has a controlling nature...she can be happy in life just as you should be. My advice to you is find yourself a counsellor and go forward in your life as your parents are and the main thing to remember is this is not your fault. I am thinking that is how you are possibly thinking? What your dad did was wrong and by not speaking up and saying something you leave things open for him to do it to others. So well done for saying something the fact your mother didnt believe you really sucks but maybe in time you can talk with her about it.Maybe she needs your support as much as you need hers

It completely normal to be hurt in this situation. It's painful when your parents separate, even if you are an adult. It sounds like you've had a rough time. I've been there. My father abused me and my mother didn't really care. It's taken me awhile to get to a place where it's ok and I can actually see them without getting upset. But I have, and you will too. Just try to be patient with yourself, try not to blame yourself for anything and you'll heal. It's a great idea to see a therapist as well. Mine helped me a lot.

Why are you so hurt?
Could it be because your dad harmed you and your mom ignored it?
Sweet girl, I don't want to sound like I'm p'ussy-whipped or anything, but tears dripped down my cheek when I read your note.

you shouldn't be that hurt because of what your dad did to you and your mom should have defended you and not him and taken your side. So maybe its for the best that they do live in different apartment. Maybe your side b/c it took this long for your mom to separate from your dad

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